UGGG!

[Warriorscats]

I am really stressed out now because this girl who used to be my friend (we aren't really friends anymore but we do hang out from time to time) Found out that I was having a little birthday party with a few friends at a HUGE indoor waterpark. She got kind of upset and angry that I didn't invite her (she said that I promised that I would invite her but I don't remember that I ever did promise....) So now she is really upset but I've already invited two friends and I only wanted them to come not her. So she wrote me a note that says that I have to ask my mom if she can come. I really don't want to invite her even though that I might have promised her but I just forgot....so now I asked her what would happen if I asked my mom and she said no and she said that if my mom did say no (I hope she does!) then she would be really sad. I don't want to hurt her feelings but then again I REALLY don't want to invite her.

What should I choose...

Invite her and make her happy

Don't invite her and make ME happy

I am getting a head ach just trying to choose!

 

[tamaw/pants]

ok, just tell her that you could only invite 2 (or w/e number you have) and thats it.

say sry, but thats my moms rule, not mine (make your mom say that outloud! lol! just to have a clear concince! lol!)

explain to her, that well she cant go.

your sorry, but you could only invite a certain number.

i hate when people do that to me >.< drives me crazy- inviting themselves.

just dont lie to her. like dont say "oh, i'm cancelling it" or something.

it just gets worse and worse.

i would suggest that yeah, you do talk it over with your mom.

but if you dont want her at you party, she shouldnt come.

 

[Digi450]

that reminds me. one time my best friend was gone all weekend. so on monday i called up another friend she said she was at a water park for my best friends birthday. i was so hurt i wanted to cry!!

 

[Warriorscats]

ok, just tell her that you could only invite 2 (or w/e number you have) and thats it.say sry, but thats my moms rule, not mine (make your mom say that outloud! lol! just to have a clear concince! lol!)

explain to her, that well she cant go.

your sorry, but you could only invite a certain number.

i hate when people do that to me >.< drives me crazy- inviting themselves.

just dont lie to her. like dont say "oh, i'm cancelling it" or something.

it just gets worse and worse.

i would suggest that yeah, you do talk it over with your mom.

but if you dont want her at you party, she shouldnt come.

the only problem is that she keeps telling me that I had promised that I would invite her to my next birthday but I never remembered promising her....well maybe I did but I must have forgotten....anyway I really don't want to get her all mad at me for not even inviting her even though (she says) that I promised I still don't want to invite her. Ugh! this is so annoying! :furawatchi:

 

[tamaw/pants]

that reminds me. one time my best friend was gone all weekend. so on monday i called up another friend she said she was at a water park for my best friends birthday. i was so hurt i wanted to cry!!

ouch.

it was your best friend?

well, a bunch of things could have happened.

i also hate when people tell about other people party, or talk about them right in fromt of you. drives me crazy! or when they tell people about your own party! grr, hate that too!

 

[tamaw/pants]

the only problem is that she keeps telling me that I had promised that I would invite her to my next birthday but I never remembered promising her....well maybe I did but I must have forgotten....anyway I really don't want to get her all mad at me for not even inviting her even though (she says) that I promised I still don't want to invite her.  Ugh!  this is so annoying! :furawatchi:

yeah, thats a toughie.

just tell her straight out.

or get your mom to say that she cant come- just for your sake!

if she was really your friend, she wouldnt be so bothersom about this.

dont be rude, but calmly talk to her and tell her.

if she gets mad, well, thats her problem, you dont need to be worried or ticked off on your birthday

 

[Warriorscats]

yeah, thats a toughie.just tell her straight out.

or get your mom to say that she cant come- just for your sake!

if she was really your friend, she wouldnt be so bothersom about this.

dont be rude, but calmly talk to her and tell her.

if she gets mad, well, thats her problem, you dont need to be worried or ticked off on your birthday

.....well I guess that I could tell her.....the only problem is that I hate hurting peoples feelings. I really don't want to invite her but she said that she would be really upset if I didn't. Maybe I should just tell her that my mom said no and some things came up so that I could only invite two friends. If she's mad then I guess that that's her fault!!! :furawatchi:

 

[tamaw/pants]

.....well I guess that I could tell her.....the only problem is that I hate hurting peoples feelings. I really don't want to invite her but she said that she would be really upset if I didn't. Maybe I should just tell her that my mom said no and some things came up so that I could only invite two friends. If she's mad then I guess that that's her fault!!! :furawatchi:

yeah, its really hard but you have to- or you will just get stuck with her and someone is bound to get {emotionaly} hurt.

just say that you can only invite to people. period.

she can go get pi**ed off, but like you said, it really is her problem.

 

[Warriorscats]

Wow!!! Thanks for all the help guys! I guess that I'm just gonna have to tell her the truth.....this is going to be very hard for me considering that I hate hurting peoples feelings......nevermind

:furawatchi:

 

[yo!allyrox]

My friend didn't invite me to her party. I invited her to mine. I ask, what... you're having a bday paty?( cause i didn't know about it) and shes like ya! im like why didn't you invit e me. she's like... i forgot about you. that made me mad. my suggestions don't invite if u don't want to. tell her that its really expensive or your not alloud. but only if u cannot i invite her.

 

[Warriorscats]

Thanks everyone for the wonderful ideas! I think that I'm going to have no problem telling her that I don't want her to come! (my mom already said that she was stuck up so she also didn't want her to come)

 

[Digi450]

ouch.it was your best friend?

well, a bunch of things could have happened.

i also hate when people tell about other people party, or talk about them right in fromt of you. drives me crazy! or when they tell people about your own party! grr, hate that too!

the prolblem is they still talk about it all the time

 

[TigerLily013]

Thanks everyone for the wonderful ideas! I think that I'm going to have no problem telling her that I don't want her to come! (my mom already said that she was stuck up so she also didn't want her to come)

Yeah I actually got my mother once to forbid a so called friend years ago from attending anything I hosted lol. It saves on explanation, and its your party, you should enjoy yourself...not feel like garbage because someone is annoying you.

 

[love4tamas]

This is the way i see it,

Well, it is YOUR birthday right? And, I think you should enjoy it.

If ur mom says no because you can only invite two people,

then tell her what your mom said.

If she said it's ok,

then don't lie to her or it will make everything worse when she finds out.

If ur mom says it's okay for her to come,

then politely tell her the truth.

She might be mad,

but at least she knows where you stand.

and,

she wouldn't be as mad if you told her face to face,

rather than her finding out some other way.

Best of Luck,

Love4tamas

 

[Warriorscats]

Well, I went to school today and told her that she couldn't come. Now every time I look at her she scowls(sp?) at me. Well anyway I bet that the only reason that she wanted to come was because it's at the biggest indoor waterpark with HUGE waterslides. If the party had been at my house she probably wouldn't have even wanted to come.

some friend huh!