My Sister

[Cookiefairy]

I have a ten year old sister. She’s smart, popular, and genuinely happy, but there is one problem. Every morning when she wakes up or every afternoon when she comes home from school she has tantrums and gets violent. She is very selfish and ignorant. She turns off my keyboard while I am in the middle of a song and as a compulse, once I have started a song I cannot finish it. She will threaten you and shove you. She hassles the cats and won’t let them go. Just this morning she pushed and punched my Mum when she didn’t get the cerial she wanted.

We have been to see specialists, and they work for maybe a couple of weeks, but she always goes back. I have tried to talk to my Mum and Dad about this and they say they are working on it but nothing ever happens. I can’t just sit here while she hurts and threatens my family. She even made our Grandma cry once.

Ps. If it helps, she has been like this all her life.

~Cookiefairy

 

[SailorRosette]

One thing I have done with others being crappy to people... Is ignore them, but obviously it doesn't stop somethings. Have you talked to your sister about it?

Another thing that seems to work sometimes is... They do something you don't like. Like they take something, do something you really don't like them doing. Go into their room, remove something small you don't think she will notice right away. Keep doing it until she starts realizing things are going missing. Eventually people ask if you've seen stuff, then ask why. It got someone's attention I know, they wanted them back they had to listen to me. Its a bit cold, but it might work. Kinda like a soft revenge.

MAKE CERTAIN you keep the stuff in a safe spot, unknown to her, all together, put away nicely.

 

[nadoosh]

Well. If it was for me, Well I would made her cry from yesterday till this moment.

I would just kick her if she does anything that anger's anyone from my family or if she anger's you.If she was smaller than you,Then just show her the other face of YOU.

That's my opinion.

Don't just stop here,give it a shot!

Good Luck!

 

[booboo1]

I wouldn't go as far as hurting her, that would most likely make it worse.

I suggest if she's throwing a tantrum though, talk back. Yell at her. Have your mom ground her and send her to her room. If she punches you or you mom, just hold her down. Try to get your mom to be strong by you setting an example for her. I don't know if you know this, but it's extremely hard on your parents when your own child won't even listen to them. If you show your parents that you're able to work with them to help her calm down, they might also gain some hope. I'm not sure on what else to say really, because most of this advice I got from watching that Super Nanny show. xD

I hope everything works out for you guys!

 

[TamaMum]

Please don't dismiss something because your sister reverts to previous behaviour after a couple of weeks treatment. Specialist treatment is not a "magic wand" and sometimes it can take months to find out details about the problems your sister might have and to suggest strategies for treating them. You said she has been like this all her life, so it could take time to sort it all out.

Sounds like your sister (and your parents and you) needs more professional diagnosis, advice and information - it is not a great idea to ask for help from a Tamagotchi Fan forum where the advice might be friendly, well meaning, but way off.

We are not medical professionals.

Your parents say they're working on it. Maybe they need you to be patient and not expect results after only a few weeks.

If you want help to understand the situation and how to manage with it, you need to ask your parents if you can be involved in the process and have her problems explained to you too - and for the doctors to explain ways you can help her or cope with the problems yourself.

 

[Minecraft Addict]

Sounds a little like my 8-yr old bro. He has ADHD but that doesn't seem like the case here. I'm gunna do some research and try and find a solution. I always try to help.

 

[katie_bug]

Sounds like a spoiled brat to me. <_< Question. Do your parents believe in traditional discipline, ya know the whole "Don't make me go get a switch/belt!"? That's how I was raised.

If it's not an emotional problem, well she's just mean. If she was myyyy sister, I would tell her what's what and how it's gonna be. If she doesn't like it, get her to agree by my means.

She feeds off of people's reactions, so ignore her childish things.Best thing to do is record her, then show it to her sitting down with the family. Let her see how she is hurting ya'll

 

[Gotchi Guy46]

Try talking to her I guess?

 

[Nazotchi25]

one question, is she autistic?

 

[fuzzy-girl3847]

SOMETIMES MY SISTER AND DOES THE SAME THING TRY TO IGNORE HER AND IT MIGHT WORK OR HAVE U CHECKED IF SHE HAS ADHD DESIES! HOPE I HELP LOL

 

[Ryuk`]

i say : WHIP YO KIDS

 

[dazzilitchigirl]

Well, I think any kind of corporal punishment is illegal, and I also think if she's nice at other times she might go into a sort of trance when she does that. It's not normal behaviour for a ten-year-old girl, because I AM one and I have no reason to do it. However, I sometimes find some noises annoying, like people sniffing, and when I hear those noises I get a bit annoyed and agitated. Maybe your sister has the same problem, except she double triple over-reacts and doesn't even tell you what's bothering her?

But just don't treat her like a little kid having a tantrum, because ten-year-olds don't like being treated like three-year-olds. I'm in junior/elementary school, so there are these little four-year-old kids in the same playground as me. They have arguments, but with such young children, the arguments settle usually in less than a day. But once you get to the age of about seven (I remember my seventh birthday party), arguments start getting bigger and last longer. Once you're about ten, fallouts between friends still don't usually last more than two days, but friends and enemies within the class are starting to develop and that needs to be taken seriously, especially by parents and older siblings. So I recommend being serious about her problem, and not treating her like a little kid, because rewards and punishments simply don't work once you get to about that age.

Whatever you do, DON'T do anything along the lines of a chart where she is banned from something/grounded for X days when she has a tantrum. That sort of system does not work with ten-year-olds, and also, I don't believe she can help it.

~ Dazzmina ~