Loving a 2nd Grader?

[Cinderpelt]

Okay, this is going to sound wierd... but I need help. Someone here has to understand.

 

Alright, I am a Counselor-In-Training (CIT) at my local YMCA. I get to help with Day Camp, where parents drop their kids off (like daycare) and we do active, fun activities at the park, go swimming and on field trips, etc.

 

I am working with the 1st and 2nd grade group. They are so cute! You know how they get attached to your hip and all... I really not that annoyed with it... ANYWAY...

 

There is this kid. His name is Nate. He is sooo cute, and I don't know, somewhat hott? I don't know how this can be with a second grader, but it's true. He is my type, and has the totally awesome blue eyes, which soooo turns me on.

 

He keeps asking me to be his girlfriend. I can't even think of me, going into eighth grade, going out with a SECOND GRADER. But still, I don't want to hurt his feelings. For now, I keep telling him we're really good friends, because I actually do hang out with the youger campers (kids, we call them campers because it's a day camp).

 

I don't know what to do. How can I have a major crush on a 2nd grader? I don't know what to do cause he likes me back (he doesn't know I like him). Am I insane? Has this happend to you? I need advice!

 

Cinderpelt♥

 

[Nummy]

He has to be at least 7, and you're, what, 13? That's a six year age difference. Finding a 7 year old hot is not normal.

You SHOULD NOT act on your feeling, no matter how you "type" he is. The age difference being so big and him being so young, the whole thing would just be a disaster. He would obviously tell his mom, who would not be happy hearing he's going out with you or just that you have feelings for him.

He's probably just asking you to be his girlfriend because he's grown really close to you over the summer. Do you really know a 7-year-old mature enough to go on dates or even kiss?

Let him down gently that you are, and will always be, just friends.

 

[TamaTae]

Hehe, no... but I have had a second grader flirt with me. X.x

Just try to get him closer to other 'campers' he will forget about you soon enough.

 

[summergal07]

just do wat u feel is best i guess i would go for it if u really love him

 

[Cinderpelt]

I don't know if I love him... And I am not planning on dating him. I just need suggestions to help me get over these strange feelings.

 

Sorry if I didn't make that clear.

 

Cinderpelt♥

 

[Cinderpelt]

He has to be at least 7, and you're, what, 13? That's a six year age difference. Finding a 7 year old hot is not normal. You SHOULD NOT act on your feeling, no matter how you "type" he is. The age difference being so big and him being so young, the whole thing would just be a disaster. He would obviously tell his mom, who would not be happy hearing he's going out with you or just that you have feelings for him.

He's probably just asking you to be his girlfriend because he's grown really close to you over the summer. Do you really know a 7-year-old mature enough to go on dates or even kiss?

Let him down gently that you are, and will always be, just friends.

And BTW, my parents have a six year age difference, and one of my friend's parents have a 10 year difference.

 

Cinderpelt♥

 

[Nummy]

And BTW, my parents have a six year age difference, and one of my friend's parents have a 10 year difference.  

Cinderpelt♥

Until you're an adult, I think a 6 year age difference is very noticeable in a relationship. Especially when you're 13, and the other person is 7.

 

[babygotchi]

It's okay. I think that happened to me once. But I dunno.Is it worse than having a crush on your cousin?(I'm not saying that I do) But just write your feelings on a piece of paper(then throw it away) or keep a diary or journal. The feeling will probably go away soon.

 

[baybee-x]

Well as you know you really shouldn't act on your feelings. He may say he wants you to be his girlfriend but he's in second grade, he hasn't a clue what he's on about. When I was in placement [i have been since September every other week] alot of the children said 'Miss is cute' and just silly things that keep them entertained.

It doesn't mean they're attracted to me just that they liked me alot and was unsure about how to show they liked me. Also one little girl always used to tell me she wished I was her mum. They where all also 6-7. In all honesty I think it's a bit wierd, sure I thought the children where cute but I never 'fancied' any of them they're little children!

I think you should ignore you feelings and try to get over him. When your 26, and he's 20 the age difference won't seem anything. But when he's 7 and your 13..It wouldn't go far as he wouldn't have a clue how to handle a serious relationship.

 

[Sweet Kandi]

And BTW, my parents have a six year age difference, and one of my friend's parents have a 10 year difference.  

Cinderpelt♥

Being an adult and having that age difference is WAY different than being a kid and having it.

Picture this. It's like you dating a 19 year old.

I've done that exact thing. 13 to 19. It doesn't work and it's really awkward.

A few weeks ago I was in a relationship(if you can even call it that) with a 25 year old. Even as an adult that was really weird.

Tell him that you're too old for him and that no matter what you'll always be friends.

I'm sure at 7 he doesn't even realize what having a girlfriend actually means.

Just keep telling yourself that he's way to young for you. Even if you have to, picture kissing him. I'm sure that'll kill the feelings, lol. While at your age it's not illegal yet, I think you'd still be looked at as a pedophile from your friends and other people.

I liked babygotchi's idea about the diary. Write your feelings for him down and keep in mind that he's way too young. Soon enough your mind will make the realization that's it an unrealistic crush.

 

[Cinderpelt]

Being an adult and having that age difference is WAY different than being a kid and having it.
Picture this. It's like you dating a 19 year old.

I've done that exact thing. 13 to 19. It doesn't work and it's really awkward.

A few weeks ago I was in a relationship(if you can even call it that) with a 25 year old. Even as an adult that was really weird.

Tell him that you're too old for him and that no matter what you'll always be friends.

I'm sure at 7 he doesn't even realize what having a girlfriend actually means.

Just keep telling yourself that he's way to young for you. Even if you have to, picture kissing him. I'm sure that'll kill the feelings, lol. While at your age it's not illegal yet, I think you'd still be looked at as a pedophile from your friends and other people.

I liked babygotchi's idea about the diary. Write your feelings for him down and keep in mind that he's way too young. Soon enough your mind will make the realization that's it an unrealistic crush.

Thank you! That helps a lot. But man... do I feel completely embarrassed...I don't want to date him... I just want to get over these feelings. The thing about picturing kissing him... It was totally gross and helped the most. lol.

 

And when I posted about the age difference thing, I was referring to adults and didn't think that I should try dating him now. I was just saying that it is actually more common for spouses to have different ages than the same age.

 

I just hope I find a guy my age with his blue eyes.

 

Cinderpelt♥

 

[~TearsxarexlikexStorms~]

Thank you! That helps a lot. But man... do I feel completely embarrassed...I don't want to date him... I just want to get over these feelings. The thing about picturing kissing him... It was totally gross and helped the most. lol.  

And when I posted about the age difference thing, I was referring to adults and didn't think that I should try dating him now. I was just saying that it is actually more common for spouses to have different ages than the same age.

 

I just hope I find a guy my age with his blue eyes.

 

Cinderpelt♥

Aw you will. My crush does, and so do I, so I like him a lot for that. He's in my grade. (going into 5th). Just keep looking! ^^ Remember, If you don't like the kids from last year, new kids could come ^^

 

[**UrItChI**]

He has to be at least 7, and you're, what, 13? That's a six year age difference. Finding a 7 year old hot is not normal. You SHOULD NOT act on your feeling, no matter how you "type" he is. The age difference being so big and him being so young, the whole thing would just be a disaster. He would obviously tell his mom, who would not be happy hearing he's going out with you or just that you have feelings for him.

He's probably just asking you to be his girlfriend because he's grown really close to you over the summer. Do you really know a 7-year-old mature enough to go on dates or even kiss?

Let him down gently that you are, and will always be, just friends.

I could'nt agree more with you.

He has to know that there's a big gap between your age groups- so he can start realizing that you should only be friends.

But no hard feelings. Everyone has problems in life, no matter what they may be.

 

[Cinderpelt]

I think I am completely over him. But he is really cute, though.

 

I found out that he is not as young as I thought he was, he is turning 9 soon. He is going into 3rd grade however, and me going into 8th. I know it won't work (at least not now) no matter how much he wants it to.

 

He kept asking me all day to be his girlfriend. I told him that we were just really good friends, and he doesn't want an old girlfriend. But he keeps saying that it doesn't matter. Really cute how he says it and all.

 

But, bottom line, I am not planning on dating him or anything. I think I just needed to talk and sort out my awkward feelings, even if it was a bit embarrasing. Maybe it was hormones.

 

Cinderpelt♥

 

[TamaTae]

Awww, That would break my heart Those things kill me! Hehe..

I am glad its ok, Maybe oen day you WILL date him, you ust wont realize it is him, that would be straneg.

Good luck!

TamaTae.

 

[TigerLily013]

I think I am completely over him. But he is really cute, though.  

I found out that he is not as young as I thought he was, he is turning 9 soon. He is going into 3rd grade however, and me going into 8th. I know it won't work (at least not now) no matter how much he wants it to.

 

He kept asking me all day to be his girlfriend. I told him that we were just really good friends, and he doesn't want an old girlfriend. But he keeps saying that it doesn't matter. Really cute how he says it and all.

 

But, bottom line, I am not planning on dating him or anything. I think I just needed to talk and sort out my awkward feelings, even if it was a bit embarrasing. Maybe it was hormones.

 

Cinderpelt♥

Good for you. Right now it's definitely out of the question and you need to explain to him that he needs to respect your decision and stop bothering about it. He's 9 and young, but kids that age need things and boundaries spelled out to him

 

[SUPER_GOTCHI]

A while back I had similar feelings (?), although about other types of differences (and just in case you're curious, I am NOT homosexual). I'm completely over them.

 

[VioletetchiGirl101]

hey i know how u feel.In 2nd grade i was bf/gf with a 2nd grader.But anyways,ppl say it isn't cool for older ppl to date younger ppl but that isn't true.No offense if this takes any offense in any way i think it's kinda funny.

~VG101

 

[TigerLily013]

hey i know how u feel.In 2nd grade i was bf/gf with a 2nd grader.But anyways,ppl say it isn't cool for older ppl to date younger ppl but that isn't true.No offense if this takes any offense in any way i think it's kinda funny.

~VG101

Only problem is if the one person is under the age of consent it looks bad ^_^ It makes more sense as adults since both folks are adults who can make up their own minds...but kids? Yeah that's a no-no.