My mom's side of the family is generally short and large, my dad's side more towards tall and thin. I get the most awkward of both worlds, apparently, at 6'0" and 250lbs. My bmi passes into "obese territory about a year ago. Thanks to my height, I don't show it too much, but I feel the difference. 175lbs is where I want to be. When I'm there, I fit into a 12, and it looks good on me despite the fact I'm never destined to have a flat belly. Anything less than that, and I'd never find clothes long enough for my frame! I also usually have to buy men's sized clothes, because there's more variety in inseam length of jeans and the like, and more non-low cut options. (Seriously, what woman with a 40 inch waist wants to show off where her hip bones aren't visible?)
I'm not happy with my weight, but I can change that with a little work and a few small changes that lead to bigger changes. I was in a dark place for the last year or so in the wake of a deeply upsetting family tragedy, and I'm still not entirely okay, but I'm ready to go back to good. my mother and I are trying to meet weekly for walking, which is good for both of us, I'm walking longer routes home from work every day, and I'm trying to make healthier choices. Where I work, it's been nothing but bagels and soda for the last 5 years of work meals, so I'm trying to drink soda water flavored with real fruit or cucumber instead, since I have the fizzy addiction. And I'm bringing my own food to replace the 500 calorie carb fest that is every option to eat there. It's making a diference!
☆To the ladies unhappy with your image, try to look at it as health not size/weight, because it makes such a difference in the choices you make when chosing soda or iced tea, potato chips or pretzles, etc. It's the little choices that added up last time I was able to lose weight, and little choices that are working for me again! And remember, diet is what you do eat, not what you exclude! It's not easy, but when is anything of any actual importance in your life easy? Remember why you want to work for it, and do it for you and your reasons, not because society tells you skinny is what you need to be! ☆