Friend Problem

[kk445]

I give up. THis is the girl olivia hates me for no reason. She says i was her bffluu ( a very good friend XD) and today In the middle of no where when i was talking to her she just mumbled mmmmhhhmm, like she was mad. I said nothing bad. just laughing or something. Then i am like R U MAD AT ME? she said no. Then on her book in school i wrote ''bffluu me or emilie(another girl thats also my friend)she said emilie WHAT DID I DO! ONE SECOND SHE LOVES ME THE NEXT SHE HATES ME

Then i told my friend emilie her new bffluu that i am very mad. She said she is friends with everyone, but i told her a girl is bullieng her own friend and she said she didnt mean to hurt me in a careing way. We are still very good friends, but this other girl is putting so mutch stress on my and cant she take a disigreement. MY bffluuF! and i always have a disigreement like on what basketball to pick or little things, this girl cant take that! She i just give up with girl?

 

[TamaXTREAM]

This isn't clear. What did she do to make you angry? Why do you think she hates you? Please post more clearly because we can't understand this.

 

[kk445]

*screams* what is not clear! i am mad enough! To make me angry? she hates me thats what makes me angry. And its pretty clear she is mad saying bad things to me

We? who is we! Your the only person to post. If you cant understand it dont post in it. i want some help not i dont get it

sorry i am really mad and sad at the same time

 

[*LoVeLy.SwAn.23*]

Take it easy. Just be friends for about... lets say a month.

Then decide if you don't like her.

I had a friend.

At first when I talked to her another person that I know. She then said it wasn't about me. So as I was about to go to my bag, they came back.

After that, she started giving me some attitude, and calling me her friend.

Ignored me after lunch. This one time I sat down with her, me and another person were being used.

Me and another one of her friends dumped her.

I made another friend with another person who wasn't really my friend. He told me I was being used.

Then I ignored her beyond belief. Everytime I even tried to talk to her, she'd ignore me anyways.

So after a while she pretended to be friends with this other girl and sat with her on the bus.

Then I got evil-eyed by a counsellor.

The tragedies after the school year.

 

[kk445]

Well its happing again. Im chorus she said she loves me and i didnt say one word and she says she hates me one second later. WHATS GOING ON! she is trying to make me jealous my hanging out with my best friend i knew forever (yes since birth...well 2 months difference) and i am mad. I am hanging out with this girl now and is like my best friend. But she likes this girl now cause i do =X oh no!

 

[TigerLily013]

Well first off, I think you should be a bit nicer to those who are trying to help you in this topic. Your posts are a bit hard to understand because they appear to me as incomplete sentences and a bit choppy...so instead of being rude, be grateful someone is trying to understand. Sheesh!

Second if she's causing this much drama just dump'em. It isn't worth the effort or stress and if you don't care if they hang out with people you know, they will lose interest. I also recommend you mention to your friend you'd really like their support on terminating this so called friendship by sticking by you, but it's their choice really.

 

[kk445]

update

now she stole my best friend. she is always showing off and hugging her and ugh!

 

[tamaMamita]

One secound she loves you, one secound she hates you, hmmm this sounds like the on and off again friend. I know how these friends are.

Don't: try to get revenge by doing the same things she is doing.Anger can spread and it can be worse.

Don't: start crying to her. If you cry and beg it will make her look more powerful. She will feel in control and hurt you even more.

Do: Make it clear to her that you want to be friends. Talk to her and ask her what she thought of the situation.

Do: Make new friends

Hope this helped!!!

 

[kk445]

if u read my last post she has stolen my friend

i told her i wana be her friend

And i told my friend she kinda stole that i dont want to, but i am listing to my heart.

Nothing is working. she still hates me for no reason

 

[tamaMamita]

now let it go, after a week or so she will be coming around again. At least from my experience thats what happened. When you make new friends she will start wanting to join in.

 

[Kawaii-Kitty]

Sorry tamaMamita, but I don't think that that's how it should be handled... Well, it works a lot, but i have my own way

kk445,

She was your Bff? Good, so why does she hate? Who knows? Who cares? If she hugs your other bff in frount of you, simply roll your eyes (making an "UGH!" sound with that is good) If she talks to you in a rude way after that then say sarcasticly, "Um, Excuse me! I ONLY talk to my bff's, but wait..... You hate me, so bye" then leave. If she talks to you later like if she's trying to start a conversation say "Can I help you?" and if she goes on about how you were being 'rude' then say "If your only talking to me to fight, then I have no interest in talking" If she calls in a rude way, say the same thing on the phone, and hang up right after.

and NO by doing this you are NOT being rude. She was the one who started this, your the one to show her you really e don't care. She'll eventually come back, and if she doesn't then that's her probem, not yours.

(Just DONT say this is a very rude way... All I said up there, is all you need to do. If you do anything else like that, but even more, then it'll go too far.)

This worked with my friend, and she finally said sorry.

Your the Boss of your life, just because she's made at you for no reasn doesn't mean you should ignore her, and not be yourself when she is around. Just think: If she's like this, then pretend you don't even know her, your just being your normal self as always, unless she talks, then act like you were NEVER even friends in the first place.

-Hope if works out!

(don't be nervous to do this, because she doesn't controll your personallity, and you should be willing to show that)

P.S. Try to keep in touch with your other bff, and stay cool with her so she doesn't get stolen away

 

[Crowfrost]

Kawaii-Kitty,

I like your advice! This sounds like verbal bullying to be *Tsk Tsk*

My method (Oh geeze Rants here we come ^.^)

If she tries to talk to you simply listen, nod a few times and walk away. If It is rude just walk away. If she gets you in trouble a lot (Ugh, here comes MY story ....) then ignore her, this is what happened to me: (Rant rant blah blah rant blah....XD)

My friend Karen needs a life, We talk on the phone a lot. Well one night I figured out we had three way right? SO I decided to call my friend Kaytee on three way with Karen (They are NOT good friends... Urg) and when her mom picks up the phone I was about to talk when Karen goes 'Uhm, Hi Its Brendan' In a low voice. I almost freak of course. So we talk to Kaytee for a bit and hang up. Well Karen addmitted it was her when we were talking. After I hang up with Karen I get a call from Kaytee's dad, Oh jeeze, who calls MY dad... they get into it Blah blah blah *Fast forward* I am in trouble for what KAREN did... -.-... Well that was last year, now a few weeks ago Karen calls me with Jack on three way, she goes 'Croweh Jack is on three-way" I smirk and hit the little red button. She called back but I never answered.

So if she is getting you in trouble just stop. ok?

And even more, if she is doing this just simply walk up to her and say "Look can we just talk about this?" and if she says No simply proceed with asking what you did or why she is mad. She has to break down sometime! (Haha Nother story!)

This happened to my friends son.

Well he was being bullied b a girl etc... When she finally stopped he found out why, when they moved into their house four years ago *Gasp* he had said he didn;t like her NAILPOLISH.

Its all about revenge. You never know what you did. So All I can say is try and be a good friend with your other Best friend and have a good time. If this keeps happening she isn't a good friend right? Right!

Well Good Luck!

Savannah Kat

 

[tamaMamita]

if yoou roll your eyes at her, then she is going to keep doing the same exact thin to you, and you will never have her back as a friend. same thing with saying things, just ignore her.

 

[tamaMamita]

Also, k-kitty

I don't think the way you said to handle it would work because. Number 1 you should not get revenge from people. 2 you are just being as mean as the girl that hates you kk445. If you keep up being snotty to people you are also probably going to get in trouble.

 

[heart of stone87]

That's a bit strange a friend who hates you for no reason....i have alot of these friends and what i did to get them back was ignore them.yep,that's right they said things that realy hurt and well..um..i ened up giving them both black eyes and you don't wanna know what happened after that.So,just try to ignore her make new friends.

 

[Kawaii-Kitty]

That's Okay tamaMamita, Don't back down, you may flame me

 

[tamaMamita]

WHAT????

 

[Kawaii-Kitty]

He,He C'mon tamaMamita, have some fun!

Revenge isn't it. What's wrong with being the boss of your own life? that's the advice I gave, I didn't say "PUSH HER DOWN" or anything like that, so what do you mean revenge?

Don't worry, You may fame me!

 

[Zafirah]

Don't be rude about it though, just let her know that she isn't acting like a true friend. Maybe find another friend, nad be their BFF and then start hangning out with them ,and sorta do it in her face, and then she might realise how much she misses being your friend. BTW- I am friends in RL with kitty

 

[tamaMamita]

o, i thought you were serious. o ok