Cyberbullying

[Moussette]

So true.

But maybe it has also something to do about the age ? I mean, maybe cyber bullies are taken more seriously when you are young ?

I've been bullied at school, and i've been cyber bullied too. At school it was a big deal because they hurt me bad. On the internet it just made me laugh because i didn' t take that person seriously. I just block people who bore me and then keep up with my life ^^

 

[FairyWars9]

This is quite a shocker but, I've only been Cyberbullied once or twice. The rest is either drama queen's calling me a "hacker" on Hamtaro fansites tagboards, or people linking me to some weird disgusting picture... That happened here once on TamaCHAT like 2 summers ago, I just find it weird now.

But yeah, I think it is a problem but it can't be stopped. Banning a person from your site/chatroom won't help. Everytime they unplug their internet modem, their IP Address changes slightly so that person can just log right back on again and continue... The best advice I can give is if someone is starting to say mean things to you like on AIM or Skype, DO NOT REPLY BACK! Take a screencap of your screen everytime that person is saying bad stuff, and put it in a folder. If you don't know how to do that, go here: https://windows.microsoft.com/en-ph/windows/take-screen-capture-print-screen#take-screen-capture-print-screen=windows-7 or if your on a Mac: https://guides.macrumors.com/Taking_Screenshots_in_Mac_OS_X It WILL help if for some reason the police need to be involved, so you'll have full proof.

 

[nerdbot]

In real life, bullies are more dangerous. They can follow you, they can hurt you, and yet you still need to go to school...but you dread it because of the bullies. They can make fun of your appearance, lack of skills as certain subjects, etc...but "cyberbullies" don't know you in that way. They most likely have no idea how short you are or how bad you are at maths.. so what real harm can they do? People who call you names don't even KNOW you. There is no meaning behind what they say; they're just saying it for the sake of it, just choosing a random innocent person online and dishing out whatever insults they can come up with.

While you do have some really great points, keep in mind that cyberbullying does extend to people that you know in real life!

It's not always a random stranger. Usually those posts are the ones you can shake off easily.

 

[Midorime]

That is true. they can be your friends in person, but be really mean online, and then you become torn on what to do because in person they can act like nothing happened. Had that happen before, and thankfully she dropped out of school and is no longer my friend. (She sent me very bad pictures, more than likely was her bf on her account, though, and she dropped out due to getting really bad grades and being pregnant and just overall not caring about her education or anything.)

 

[Box]

challenge: write reply in 2 minutes, go, go, go

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I've never been bullied over the 'net, Or, at least, I think not. I was never really offended by anything, even direct verbal abuse.

I always thought it was too bothersome to get worked up over such things. I actually found it quite hilarious that people could say such things. Go do something worth your time, am I right?

In short, I can't speak for the majority when it comes to how effective cyberbullying is. My two cents: I've observed that the worst kind is when it spreads away from the keyboard. Still, one shouldn't be affected by trivial things like racist comments, jokes about one's appearance, or even direct attacks to the way they are or something they've done.

I think this line is bull: "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me."

Not exactly. Words can hurt, but they don't have to. (Also, I bet we could all stand a few sticks and stones xD)

I never got those who would get worked up and downright suicidal over what some d-bag keeps telling them through messages... If you don't want to hear it, take a stand and tell someone else or just block them <____<
No one said you had to listen.-.

 

[nerdbot]

Most people don't get suicidal over a few words. It's when those negative words persist for a long time.

 

[Stefan Bauwens]

Just adding something here:

If words say something negative about you that is true, you don't have to feel bad because it means you have to work on this point; The accusation is true. However, if someone says something to you that isn't true then it hurts.

 

[dazzilitchigirl]

People don't want to get upset about cyber-bullying. It's not going to help anyone to tell someone who is depressed about cyber-bullying that they just need to ignore it and it's a silly thing to get upset over. They've probably been telling themselves the same thing for years and it hasn't helped.

There's a difference between cyber-bullying and randomly insulting people. I've entered chat rooms and had random insults directed at me, but it doesn't upset me because there's no meaning behind it. Cyber-bullying is when someone you know (or "know" online) insults you repeatedly about things you're sensitive about with the intention of hurting your feelings. Not when some random stranger says "your an idiot i hate u".

 

[Box]

Most people don't get suicidal over a few words. It's when those negative words persist for a long time.

...Eh, that's usually when it loses its effect. Even the most hurtful of things in all different forms gets redundant after a while, and they just become "that one guy." For people I've seen deal with this sort of thing, at least.

"insults you repeatedly about things you're sensitive about with the intention of hurting your feelings"

I agree that there is a difference between random insults and full-on bullying. However... Ah, I'm not good with words this evening. I don't know if effectiveness varies based on--wait, yeah, it kinda does depend on who you are. lolsry.

I don't know everyone, of course, but I will say this: if someone's words are that effective and disturbing to any individual, said individual has as many issues as the "bully."

...That last sentence there sounded kinda offensive, so...

I'm not telling anyone to just suck it up and grow a pair. I'm not saying words should be ignored and left unconsidered. I just want people to know that it's not the end of the world if someone says something terrible about you, regardless of whether you feel bad.-. Don't dwell...

Something I tacked on that you don't necessarily have to read: I am not affected by direct attacks at myself. It's not because I think I am a rock; I don't, and I'm not; and it's not because I'll beat anyone who comes at me, obviously enough.

I... Probably just can't take anything seriously enough. Whatever it is, I'm happy. I can think and act accordingly, should the occasion arise.

Who knows? I just might be insane.

Tell me if you think so or maybe I'm just annoying, being half-awake ;P

 

[nerdbot]

...Eh, that's usually when it loses its effect. Even the most hurtful of things in all different forms gets redundant after a while, and they just become "that one guy." For people I've seen deal with this sort of thing, at least.

I don't know everyone, of course, but I will say this: if someone's words are that effective and disturbing to any individual, said individual has as many issues as the "bully."

...That last sentence there sounded kinda offensive, so...

I strongly disagree with you.

Words do not lose their meaning over time. Things definitely do not get redundant after a while... Some insults and mean comments carry on from childhood to adulthood. Many people are insecure about themselves in some way. Fortunately, most adults know that they don't need to hang around people who point out said insecurities.

I'm afraid that sentence was extremely offensive. That's like blaming the victim for being "too sensitive" or "not having a backbone". I understand how you may think that some people shouldn't take criticisms easily, but it's not that easy. So many things can be taken personally, and it's so difficult not to go down that path sometimes.

The least you can do is empathize.

 

[Stefan Bauwens]

I think it is clear that there ARE just different kind of people: Some people will be just more affected and others won't.

And probably all we really can do is tell the people who do get affected that it's ok, and that they should ignore it.

Else, if it doesn't work you could tell your parents if you know they guy/girl in real. If not you could report him on the site you're on, and if that stuff isn't disallowed, well, what are you doing there?

 

[dazzilitchigirl]

I think it is clear that there ARE just different kind of people: Some people will be just more affected and others won't.

And probably all we really can do is tell the people who do get affected that it's ok, and that they should ignore it.

Else, if it doesn't work you could tell your parents if you know they guy/girl in real. If not you could report him on the site you're on, and if that stuff isn't disallowed, well, what are you doing there?

But people who are affected can't ignore it and it isn't okay for them. If they could ignore it, they would. They don't want to be upset by bullies. They just are.

Cyber-bullying is not always on unmoderated sites. It can also happen through text messages and in ways the person can't just block or control. Often it's just a way for real-life bullies to be unkind without getting punished for it. If it's only online, the person can and will just leave the site. But if it spreads to real life, the victim can't leave the school to get away from bullying.

 

[Box]

I'm afraid that sentence was extremely offensive. That's like blaming the victim for being "too sensitive" or "not having a backbone". I understand how you may think that some people shouldn't take criticisms easily, but it's not that easy. So many things can be taken personally, and it's so difficult not to go down that path sometimes.

The least you can do is empathize.

I don't know everyone, of course, but I will say this: if someone's words are that effective and disturbing to any individual, said individual has as many issues as the "bully."

...That last sentence there sounded kinda offensive, so...

I'm not telling anyone to just suck it up and grow a pair. I'm not saying words should be ignored and left unconsidered. I just want people to know that it's not the end of the world if someone says something terrible about you, regardless of whether you feel bad

With that, I know it's not easy to get over

...and I think you saw the wrong kind of insult in that sentence

The insulting part to me was telling the person being bullied has issues

Not because they don't have the guts to do something or they're too weak and succumb to the insults

...but the thing the person is being bullied for... That's the issues I mention in that sentence, issues of their own. And, as Stefan said, it hurts when it's truth.

Bullies have problems. Victims have problems.

My post coming together now? Or should I take a writing course... lol