What should I do?

[MCRbabe]

Okay so my friend(K) and I had a big fight today.She said we needed to take a break from being friends because she couldn't take the we're friends we're not friends thing.Except I'm not the one doing the we are we aren't thing it's her.So she yells at me and tells me shes not going to sit with me at lunch tomarrow and to tell her boyfriend to not sit with me cause she wasn't going to be sitting with me.Does that sound *blank* to you?I have no idea wut to do all I know is that I'm really really mad at her.

 

[TamaMum]

I guess the best way to approach this is not to sink to her (slightly) childish level.

Just say something like: "OK, if you feel you need a break, that is fine. We've been friends for long enough that I hope you know when you want to be friends again, I will be here for you".

Some people have problems keeping friends and it's not unusual for them to act that way - this "friends / not friends" thing is very common - and it's a (sometimes) annoying personality trait some ppl have.

Maybe she doesn't realise that she feels insecure about whether you really are her friend or not and keeps "testing" you to see if you will try to "win" her friendship back...

It's not something I personally would do, but I don't think it is worth the stress of saying "Whatever..." and cutting her off completely either.

I guess it's really down to you. Do you value the friendship enough to say to her "I am happy to be friends with you when you're ready" ?

 

[Tama*Lover]

That is very immature of your friend to kind of dump you for a while just because of one argument. Now, it would be appropriate if you argued with her 1000 times all in the same night, but I really don't think that people would argue 1000 times.

Do you actually like her that much? Just say to her tomorrow (or the next time you see her) "Hey, ___. It's fine for now that you want to take a break with being friends for now. Just contact be whatsoever when you want to be my friend again!" if you really feel that way.

Now, if you were BFFs, then don't go begging for her to be friends again. That will just make her ignore you more. Also, try not to act immature to her either about the incident. If you guys make up again, don't bring it up again because after that, the incident is over. If she brings it up again, just try to change the subject without showing innocence, nor showing suspicion.

Good Luck

 

[MCRbabe]

Ok.....that makes more sense.Thanx.

 

[blue♣slip]

just dont try to be what she wants you to be. be your own person.

 

[TamaXTREAM]

For whatever reason, that girl wants to get to you. She may but don't act like it. The next time she says, "I don't think we should be friends anymore," then say, "Okay, then," and walk away. She will be startled by your indifference because she wants to see you get upset and beg for her because she likes that kind of attention. You could do without her, probably. Just treat her normally when she's treating you normally if she starts to consistently treat you normally but if she goes on off on off then don't be treated like a light switch, just act colder when she goes "on" again to give her the message.