Thank you for the link! I have an update on what I am encountering.
Okay, I had finally gotten it to connect. The little icon was showing on my task bar and it said TMGC is in range, so I double clicked and a window came up asking me what I wanted to transfer. I selected the piano keyboard living file, and by then the connection on my iDL had terminated. I pressed B to keep it going and then pressed send on my computer. It tried for a long time, and the tama kept losing connection and I had to keep pressing B. After that, it gave me an error message:
"The transfer failed. An error occurred while infrared file transfer application was connecting to the other device. No connection could be made because the target machine actively refused it."
When it says target machine, I'm assuming it means my iDL, so the computer thinks there's a problem with the iDL. I've tried dozens of times, and I either get the above error or, more recently:
"The transfer failed. An error occurred while infrared file transfer application was connecting to the other device. The requested address is not valid in its context."
I really don't know what to make of this. I have held it one inch from the USB, and I can't really not hold it unless I prop it up on a box or something, since I don't have a working USB hub. The computer seems to think there's a problem with the iDL. So I guess the development is, it connects but will not transfer files. If it helps any, I am using Windows Vista 32 bit.
EDIT: Anyway, I can't really do anything else with it tonight as my little Paletchi fell asleep hours ago.
But suggestions are still very very welcome!