Ok, are these signs of something serious?

[tamaw/pants]

So I know this guy at school right? He is EXTREMELY skinny- like toothpick naturaly.

Today he was talking to me and my friends and saying how he hasn't eaten a real meal in five days- he eats cookies and junk food at lunch. It's not just his bad eating habbits that worries me- he says it's like a dare from himself- the long her can last the better. He also is saying like, well so and so is toothpick! [As I see is ribs through his shirt!] We told him that they have a high metabolism BUT ALSO ACTUALY EAT.

Also a couple days ago he was talking about how he likes to overdoes drugs like Tylonal because it's 'daring' - just one more kind of attitude.

Is this sign of something much bigger than it looks from the outside, or am I just over reacting? If it is something serious, should I leave it alone or do something? What should I do?

Please help me with this- I don't really know what's up. o.o;;;

 

[RachelGotchi]

Maybe you should tell an adult you trust... I'm not sure if you should ask him directly though. It does sound very serious though and it may lead to something VERY dangerous, such as addiction or anemia.

 

[crazyy*tama]

Tell an adult immediately ! It could get worse

 

[tamaw/pants]

Well, I mentioned it to my mom earlier today, but didn't get into deep conversation because we were taking my friend home.

He's always called gay at school to. He uses the tactic of acting gay to scare people away he doesn't like- which doesn't end up helping him in the end. He acts femine-er then most guys his age- which isn't nessicarly a bad thing, just differnt and people don't like different. He gets made fun of a little bit, but it doesn't really seem to affect him too much as I can tell.

 

[tamaw/pants]

Tell an adult immediately ! It could get worse

I know it is possible it could get worse but what can I do if I tell my mom everything?

I mean, I can't just call his parents and say, 'Hey, your kid might be anorexic and might develope an addiction to common house hold drugs,'. '

Also, what, if anything, can I try to get through to him that it's not healthy? I might not see him get through this, but what I say might be able to effect him now or later.

 

[GotchiGirl96]

Anything is possible and it may be something serious. Definitely just tell your mom if it gets worse and that you are worried. If you know something may be hurting your friends the best thing is to talk to an adult.

 

[tama815]

Well I doubt it is anorexia because he eats junk food you said. Possibly bulemia but I am not sure, probably not because he would eat more food for show, but I think he is craving attention so he does these things so people will think he is cool.

If you have a teahcer that you trust and can easily talk to, then tell them. They will know exactly what to do to help you, also they might know the student and then they can talk to him and help him out. Also, you can tell your teacher you want to do this in confidentiality. They will respect that. Another option is talking to a guidance counselor, they could help you just the same way.

 

[**UrItChI**]

Tamaw/Pants, I think you have a great heart for helping him.

Well, first of all, you should tell an adult immediately.

To me, it sounds like he needs some professional help, because..

It is one thing to be daring, but taking an overdose of drugs

is life threatening. He needs to stop before it's too late.

-Rachel♥

 

[tamaw/pants]

Thanks the advice- I REALLY appreciate it!

How do I talk to my mom or a teacher about it? I'm still kinda stuck on if it's really my buisness- I don't want him to get hurt...

I'll talk to my mom, but then what? Should I try to dig deeper to try to get a better understanding or just leave it?

 

[Gejitchi]

Thanks the advice- I REALLY appreciate it!
How do I talk to my mom or a teacher about it? I'm still kinda stuck on if it's really my buisness- I don't want him to get hurt...

I'll talk to my mom, but then what? Should I try to dig deeper to try to get a better understanding or just leave it?

If you see it happening, then you probably ought to make it your business. Obviously, he isn't interested in helping himself, so someone else has to do it for him. And that person may be you.

Definitely try talking to your mother about it, and this time don't just mention it - make it clear you wanna do something about it. You can devise a plan of action. If that doesn't work, you may want to consult your teacher - you may even want to consult both.

Anorexia or no, he's got problems he needs to get help with.

 

[TigerLily013]

The symptoms sound rather odd. I think there may be an eating problem there, but overdosing on drugs and liking it and abusing himself like that is a cry for attention. Had a friend who did the same thing but she's a bigger person like me who would blame her friends and family for her choices to overdo on the pain medication. It was an obvious cry for attention, but because it was so negative I had to get away from her. She was very manipulating.

Anyway just mention his behaviours to a teacher or something high up so he can look into it more with this guy's parents. I think it's more than just an eatting disorder. He could be mentally off balance. The step after that will be if he wants to change for the good or not. If he does great, if not and tries to take you down with him, get out and stop associating with him immediately. Toxic people are the last thing you need. Can't help the unwilling.

 

[**UrItChI**]

Thanks the advice- I REALLY appreciate it!
How do I talk to my mom or a teacher about it? I'm still kinda stuck on if it's really my buisness- I don't want him to get hurt...

I'll talk to my mom, but then what? Should I try to dig deeper to try to get a better understanding or just leave it?

It is so thoughtful of you to help him out like that.

It may not be your business, but you are really helping him out.

I suggest you tell a teacher, or someone you trust.

It is good to get deeper on his painful situation, but he may not feel completely comfortable with telling you his personal business... But there are ways that you can warn him.

Taking an overdose of drugs can lead to addiction, and in some cases, death.

Leave it to a teacher to help him.

-Rachel♥

 

[snickerpie]

Well, it's a little obvious that you should immediately tell an adult. But in some cases, the overdose of drugs and liking it concernes me. Here is a list of people you can contact:

Princaple

School Councler

Teacher

Mom

Nurse

If anything else goes wrong, such as drosyness or fainting, you should make it your bussniss and tell, tell, tell!

 

[tama815]

Yea, tell someone you trust for especially the drug thing. Even though its Tylenol, it can still be VERY DANGEROUS if not taken pproperly, which obviously, he is not.

 

[phi21]

I went through something like your friend...I would only eat Pixie Sticks (pure sugar) and drink milk - nothing else. I did that for as long as I could because I like testing my limits. I think it was also because I wanted attention. Anyways, I lost like 12 lbs. when I did that. It was just a phase for me, maybe it is for your friend too. Just tell somebody if your worried.

 

[Peatrolover22]

Well um i really dont no :/

I think it is

 

[GotchiGirl96]

How do I talk to my mom or a teacher about it? I'm still kinda stuck on if it's really my buisness- I don't want him to get hurt...

Your business or not, if something is hurting a friend, it's best to tell an adult. Just tell your mom straight on what's going on with your friend and that you are worried. Then you can just go on from there. Maybe talk to his parents.

 

[tamaw/pants]

Ok, when my mom gets back I'll try to talk to her about it.

Are there any forums or webbies about dealing with this sort of thing?

That would be great.

*thanks everyone!!!!*

 

[tamatalker101]

Ok, when my mom gets back I'll try to talk to her about it.Are there any forums or webbies about dealing with this sort of thing?

That would be great.

*thanks everyone!!!!*

tamaw/pants,

Check the topic: Girls, Do you have your Period? You posted there and I gave to links. Those should help.

hope he is okay he is in my prayers

TT101

 

[tamaw/pants]

tamaw/pants,Check the topic: Girls, Do you have your Period? You posted there and I gave to links. Those should help.

hope he is okay he is in my prayers

TT101

Ok thanks- I took a look at them.

See, my main problem is that I don't know him all that well.

He's just a guy I talk to on the bus or during/after lunch, it's not like we talk that much or I really really know him.

I think I should say something to the nurse after talking to my youth minister and another lady at church, but I don't want him to know that I told her. If I'm going to do anything I want it to be anonymous [wow, thats's some cruddy spelling! xD] but how? Should I leave a note giving her my email adress and telling her on there, or should I just come out and say it to her personaly? I think he'd suspect it was me anyway I do it, but that's the problem. Any suggestions here?