My friend. :|

[Tamagirl_Desy]

I have a frenemy, and let's call her Jam.

Jam used to be a really sweet girl. She had long brown hair and wore no makeup. She had cute outfits and was fairly nice to most people. We became friends back in grade five.

Now, since the seventh grade, she's dyed her hair blonde and black, piled on the make-up (mostly eyeliner) and wears extremely sl*tty clothes, and takes pictures of herself half-naked and posts them on places like Facebook.

She used to be a shy girl and especially shy around boys, but now she wants to have have s*x with them and "go all the way".

She's never even kissed a guy before, but she goes around and telling people that she's made out and done o*als.... it's pretty disgusting.

We were just having a conversation about what we like better, guys who are loving and stay in relationships for a long time, or players, and this is how the convo went..

Her: players or long-term guys?

Me: umm, long term.

Her: EWWWWWWW, players are better.

Me: no they're not. they go from girl to girl and just use them.

Her: no they are awesomee! i like the ones you make out with then go on with your life. bump 'n' dump xD

Me: that's gross.

Her: nahh, its sickkkkkkk!

Me: whatever..

Her: tomorrow, lets go to the park and chill.

Me: okay.

Her: bring some guys that are single and like to make out.

Me: umm, i'll try...

Her: ____ is going, and we're gunna make out! hes gross but i need practice.

Me: .... :| ?

So how do I get her to stop this gross, sl*tty behaviour?

 

[Try Honesty]

Tell her shes making you feel really uncomfertable. and if she is rude to you about the fact your uncomfertable than ignore her.

Oh and tell her to use a condom if shes going to have sex. better safe than sorry

 

[-Tamacandy]

I think theres no way.

Maybe if her parents find out, & talk to her she'll stop.

Sounds like shes getting a bit above herself & just wants

to make herself popular.

 

[Fire.Fly]

If you want to change her so much then maybe you need a different friend.

 

[Tamagirl_Desy]

Tamacandy - Her parents don't care. They've seen the pictures she takes and they say nothing, and mostly just don't care what she does. But yes, I agree. She's just trying to get popular but honestly, in my opinion, she's just getting a bad repuation.

Fire.Fly - I do like her though. She can be extremely nice and she's alot of fun. We fight alot, but we've always made up. It's just making me upset to see her change so much within less than a year.

 

[Mrs.Freezie]

It's puberty. It's just a phase. She'll get over it soon enough.

But in the meantime, tell her that you're uncomfortable with what she's doing, and that she should just be ani-s*x when you're around. She'll probably understand.

 

[.:Charm:.]

Try to talk to her and tell her how her behavior is kind of freaking you out. If she doesn't understand, go with your heart.! If you're really bothered by her, I think you should let her go and not be her friend anymore...after all, it's bad influence for you, even if you don't want to become like her.

 

[Miss Matchmaker]

It sounds like a phase. I would try to explain to her what you mean, and tell her how you feel in a nice way, don't be rude about it because then you would probably lose her. Tell her she's trying too hard, which she obviously is. If you like her, cool. Just let her know that some of her behaviors bother you and when she grows up, she will probably look back on this time and realize how weird she was being.

 

[Cinderpelt]

First of all, you have to realize, you can't change her. It's her life, and she can do what she wants with it.

And I don't think she'd appreciate you lecturing her like her mother, and that may only put more barriers up between you too.

The best thing you can do is just be there for her. That way, when she looks back on this whole thing in the future she can realize what a true friend you are, because you never left her or judged her. Go out on *some* of her excursions with her, but gently keep her in line. Call her and ask her how she is. Just let her know that you're there and will listen to her. What most people want is someone to listen to them, and that's the best thing you can give her.

 

[x.Kaeleigh]

I say confront her, and just tell her that you don't feel very comfortable around her when she's around talking about s*x. Just don't try to sound like her mom, that'll probably make her mad.

 

[ChocoToken]

I say, it's going to be pretty hard to change her.

If you feel offended by her, I really suggest you hang out with someone else.

Because it seems you both loss of interest in each other, and you guys are very different from each other.

Friends change for better or worse, and you have to let some of them go.