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Sigh, I have been so sad. Today in class my boyfriend broke up with me ;) . I asked him why and this is exactly what he said,"Dating is all about compatibility, and, well, um...I'm really sorry." He did it in a very kind and private way(being the great guy he is), but it really hurt me. We are very close and I feel so good when we're hanging out together. He says we can still be friends, though I still want to be his GIRLFRIEND-not just a friend. So, boys, I need your opinion. Please answer this question:

If you were my ex-boyfriend, would you want to get back together again a few days later?

Thanks in advance,

Memetchi Dreamer

 
I am 11. Please do not start accusing me of being too young, it was not a serious boyfriend. Just the kind of boyfriend who you hang out with at school, that's all. I take it maturely.

 
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Hmmm... though I'm not a boy, I would think that your bf broke up with you for a reason. Maybe he wasn't ready or maybe he thought that you and him were better off as friends.

Your ex sounds very nice, and he wouldn't have tried to hurt you. He did it for a reason, for the best.

 
I am 11. Please do not start accusing me of being too young, it was not a serious boyfriend. Just the kind of boyfriend who you hang out with at school, that's all. I take it maturely.
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I was just wondering what level is being dealt with here. Things are different at a younger age than when you get to say, high school.

My assumption is that if he did break up with you, the odds of getting back together are slim. And, most of the time, it's not worth it to get back together anyway. It depends on the reasons for getting together again.

If you guilt him into it, then that's not good... Obviously he just likes you as a friend and you can still hang out at school and stuff without having a fancy title.

 
I never broke up before, and I hope I never do.

I feel so sorry for you :lol: There isn't a big chance that he will ask you out again, so you should throw away ALL the pictures of him if you have them in your room.

Well, here is a tip. Don't be awkward and beg him to be your boyfriend. That will make it so he will ignore you, and even abandon you. Just be very nice to him, offer to help him carry things (especially heavy things; not to heavy, though) and just mainly be nice :) You never know when he will ask you out again ;)

 
Sorry to hear about your break up. I know mine almost 3 years ago was a rocky one too. Somehow though, through all of it we managed to remain best friends and sort out our break up issues and such. We were friends before dating so it proved to me our friendship was true even after the breakup. He's got a fiancee now and it's good to see him happy :)

At any rate right now you're going to be really down and really depressed. Don't try to hide it just be sad if you're sad. But definitely don't persist on your ex being yours again. He needs just as much space as you do. You need time to get back into rational thinking. When upset and distressed as you are you won't think rationally and can/will make mistakes.

If you choose to try the friendship later down the road, take it slow and make sure you guys have clear communication. Jon and I for the first year or two had some communication issues off and on that lead to some fights, some arguements and some feelings hurt and we both realized neither of us wanted to hurt each other so we both worked hard at taking care of our weaknesses and each other.

All in all, it'll be a rollercoaster of emotion, but hopefully in the end you'll come to acceptance and peace like I did about the whole break up.

 
I'm a boy.

I would, depening on your personality, nice and chilled, not just those who want a gf/bf for popularity.

Secretly ask him on paper saying if you could have one last chance.

 
He most likely broke up with you for a reason, so, don't beg him to go back out with you, and if you can be his friend still,don't get all awkward around him,just me calm,and he migh go back out with you,you never know/.

 
Thank you for all of your help, though I think it will be better for me if I move on. If I keep thinking about getting back together I will probably just get my hopes up and get hurt again. This was my first boyfriend(and a really great one), so the break up hit me really hard. But all of your advice and support helped a lot! Thank you!

Young and Hopelessly in Love,

Memetchi Dreamer

 
Well glad to see you're wanting to move on from it. I think since the problem's been solved, I can close this now :(

*topic closed*

 
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