Alittle help?

[wildcat_gal_101]

Okay, I'll try to make these short. Yes, I have two stories.

Problem #1:

Okay, I have three friends from my school. None of them do any team sports or anything, so they don't have alot of friends outside of school. But I play hockey all year round, I play baseball, and I see my cousins all the time. So I know alot of people. Sometimes I will tell them really funny stories about something that happened at a tournament, or at a sleepover with my hockey friends. Every time after my story they always go "OH! So you'd rather hang out with your hockey friends than US?!?!" and get all mad. Then I tell them "Well, I do alot of sports. I know alot of people other than you! I can't just hang with you guys all the time!" Then they get really mad and don't talk to me for the rest of the day. How do I tell them *nicely* that I have more friends than just friends from school, and that I can't hang around with them all the time?

Problem #2:

My friend just asked me if I could go to the beach with her tomorrow (Wednesday). FYI, it's one of the Great Lakes which are overly dirty and disgusting to swim in. Plus, I'm in the middle of hockey tryouts and I find out if I make it to the next round on Thursday, which is what I really want. I'm very detirmined to make it to the round rounf then make the Peewee B team. This means I need to do more than work hard on the ice. I need to get lots of rest, drinks lots of water, try not to tire myself out, etc. Like I already said, the lake is disgusting and I hate swimming in disgusting lakes. I nicely told her "I don't really like swimming in the Great Lakes, they're dirty! Plues, I have hockey tryouts and I'm determined to make the B team. I'm sorry." Then she started posting crying smilies and begging, and begging, and LYING. She told me the lake was very clean and pretty. Then I pointed out the quote in her MSN name. EVERYBODY LIES. Then she was like "Yeah, it's really dirty!" Now I'm actually kinda mad at her.

Now I think that my friends from school are trying to get me to ditch my other friends (Who, just so you know, most of my sports friends I've known for longer) And they want me to just hang out with them and none of my hockey buddies. Now I'm really stuck! <_<

Any suggestions?

 

[tamaw/pants]

#1 This is one of the most irritating things friends can do to ya, huh? I hate the whole guilt trip because it's really their problem, not yours. When you feel one of their 'so you'd rather be with them...' deals calmly tell them that you have more friends than just them. Tell them BEFORE they start their speal. If they continue, tell them that ignoring you is actualy just pushing you away- which is the total opposite of what they want to begin with. If they ignore you still, well you did all you could do. Leave it and they'll get over it.

#2 I don't think telling your friend the lake she was going to was discusting was the right thing to do. Try not to insult the place a friend wants to take you- that could hurt their feelings more than you realize. Say you had a hockey game you really wanted them to go to but they reply, 'nah, hockey is BORING. I hate hockey', you wouldn't feel very good. Now, I'm not say go with her if you don't want to but try to say it a little differently next time. Explain to her that you have other commitments and can't make it/ If she persists tell her you are getting off the IM/phone and be firm about it. If she continues follow through. Be nice and don't let her guilt you into it.

Good luck.

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

Thanks for the advice =] And BTW, it's tryouts not a game <_<

 

[tamaw/pants]

Thanks for the advice =] And BTW, it's tryouts not a game

No problem. ;]

Oh, it's a game? Well good luck at your game!

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

I haven't talked to any of my friends, but I'm keeping this in mind. It's tryouts...NOT a game xD

 

[~TearsxarexlikexStorms~]

Well, tell your friends that even thought they are your best friends, they're not your only friends. Also say that if your busy, just understand that you live a busy life. And life isn't all fun and games.

For the hockey situation, tell her that this means a lot to you, and that you can go swimming anytime. This is a once in a lifetime chance, and you want to grab that chance while you can. If she is really your friend, she would except your feelings about the situation, and understand.

Hope I helped, and good luck!

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

Thankies =] Your advice is really helpful, tamaw/pants and ~TxAxLxS~

 

[~TearsxarexlikexStorms~]

Your welcome.

(OFF TOPIC~ That was my 1,000 post!)

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

UGH...Now I have alittle more of a problem >.< My hockey friend invited me to a sleepover today. The day my friend is going to the beach! Now if my friend finds out about this she will probably think I'm lying and that she planned the sleepover yesterday before she aksed if I could go to the beach, and that I'd rather sleepover at my hockey friend's house than go to the beach!

 

[~TearsxarexlikexStorms~]

If tryouts are today, then say that the slleep over was after tryouts, and that you needed some time with that person.

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

My tryouts are tomorrow

 

[~TearsxarexlikexStorms~]

Oh. Tell your other friend (beach friend) that you went to the sleepover to talk about tryouts.

 

[tamaw/pants]

I haven't talked to any of my friends, but I'm keeping this in mind. It's tryouts...NOT a game xD

Oh dur! *Slaps self*

Sorry- at first I thought it was tryouts, then I misread and said it was a game and now I KNOW it's TRYOUTS. xD

Good luck with you TRYOUTS!

 

[tamaw/pants]

Sleep over today? If tryouts are tomarrow I then I would suggest you wouldn't go to either and get a goon nights rest at your own place. Sleep overs don't always involve 'sleeping' so I don't think going woul be the best idea. If you are up to 3 am how well can you do tryouts with that little sleep?

Get to bed early tonight and have a good breakfast tomarrow. ;]

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

I did go to the sleepover, but I got like 12 hours of sleep because I fell asleep in the middle of Harry Potter xD I still haven't talked to my school friends for awhile except for when one of them who is not involved in this called me when she was bored.

 

[tamatalker101]

I did go to the sleepover, but I got like 12 hours of sleep because I fell asleep in the middle of Harry Potter xD I still haven't talked to my school friends for awhile except for when one of them who is not involved in this called me when she was bored.

I am a little late but did you make it to the next round?

I agree with tamaw/pants

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

I haven't gone to them yet. My tryouts are at 5:00

 

[tamatalker101]

I haven't gone to them yet. My tryouts are at 5:00

Good luck then! h34r:

 

[Caterpie]

P1: Tell them you have many friends and you need to spend quality time with them too.

 

[wildcat_gal_101]

Again, thanks everyone for the advice.

Off Topic- I made the next round for hockey tryouts! =D